Saturday, 13 August 2016
A time of sadness
My beloved dad passed away on 1 August after a long illness. He had Parkinson's disease and the last two years of his life were extremely difficult, not only for him, but for my mother, who was his primary caregiver. In June 2014, thanks to the generosity of Bevan, my eldest son, I was able to go back to South Africa to for a visit and got to spend some quality time with my dad. He was quite frail at that stage, but mentally had not deteriorated much, whereas in his final days, dementia took hold and his lucid moments were few and far between.
My dad was the kind of man who was well liked by all who knew him and in his own unassuming and quiet way, was an inspiration to many. I was not able to go to South Africa for the funeral, so I sent some flowers to my mother and my husband and I went to our local church to light candles and say some prayers for my dad and the rest of my family.
While I was at home on bereavement leave, I was sent several messages of condolence on Facebook. Some messages were from family members and friends in South Africa and others were from some of my colleagues here in New Zealand and they all meant a great deal to me.
I was also given cards and flowers by my husband, my younger son and his partner, his partner's mother and some work colleagues and they went a long way towards helping me feel better.
It saddened me that I was not able to say my final 'goodbye' to my father in person, but I am happy that his passing was peaceful and that his pain and suffering are over at last. He has gone, but will never be forgotten and will live on in my heart forever.